Imagine meeting Tom at a hotel bar. You’re both out with friends, but he can’t help but let everyone else fade away when he sees you. He draws you in for the most stimulating conversation you’ve had in ages, and unlike all the other guys you go out with, he really listens to what you have to say. Every time you open your mouth to speak, he looks at you so intently, you almost feel naked – but instead of shy or embarrassed, you feel emboldened and daring. That’s why you immediately agree when he asks you up to his hotel room for a more private exchange.







